Maintaining Distance from Abusive Parents

No, it does not make you a bad Muslim. But I want to be transparent: I am not a therapist, not a counselor, not a family mediator, and I do not know your full family situation. There are always multiple sides and complications to any story, and in a few sentences those complications cannot be fully addressed.

What I can give you are guiding principles. Whether my father is good to me or not, I should be the best I can be to him — within the limits of not putting myself under harm's way. He has rights over me, but those rights do not extend to me hurting myself in order to fulfill them. I have rights over myself too.

That said: you cannot cut family ties. Even difficult family. We can put boundaries around them, put restrictions around them, put safeties in place — but we cannot cut the tie entirely. People who sever family ties completely are, in the tradition, described in very serious terms.

You are doing phone and messages contact. That is maintaining some kind of connection. Whether that is the most you can do without being manipulated — only you can judge that. The guiding principle is: be the best you can be to him while also protecting yourself from real harm. That is not a simple calculation, and nobody outside your situation can make it for you.